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I just love lusty women, lol.

I definatley think lust is as important as love. I believe love starts with physical attraction , which in my view is lust. And for me, for love to endure over time, there needs to be lust! I love lust!

love creates lust. as far as I'm concerned

Lust makes you more aware of your libido, unfretted or not. I think certain amounts of lust are healthy and accepted, to the same degree as love.

No relationship is gonna last without a decent amount of lust...

don't like the question

I think you need to start out physically attracted to someone....then that 'may' turn into being in love. As stated here as well........Loving someone and being 'in love' with someone are two different things. I 'love' and cherish my close friends. But we don't share physical intimacey. Nor do I desire that with any of them.....in fact I couldn't imagine. When I am 'in love' with someone its different...I desire them intimately and physically. Just loving your partner may not have the substance to sustain long term without the desire and passion. That is where 'in love' comes in.

You know the saying....' I love you, but I am not in love with you'. And they really do love you...just not as a romantic partner.

i think that love is more important than lust. you need a love for what you do, whether it be your work or your hobbies. lust can be honed into creativity. that being said, lust is important as well! it's part of our humanity. the more ways you can express the fluidity that is you, the better.

Auyra..don't worry about it..most people realise your only being funny. Bigger crimes have been committed, usually by the ones doing the most squawking ;)

Lust is definitely just as important as love. ;)

So much better then muff, carpet, rug or just fish.

Ha Ha! Hairy tuna that's fucking classic!

A man would be alot grosser than that.

i just thought it was funny.

I wasn't insulted, Auyra. I was just grossed out and a bit surprised that a woman would use such a gross term for her own anatomy. It did make me wonder if you are one of those creepy men who show up on this board from time to time.

I didn't mean it as an insult and I really meant for it to be a fond name and I am sorry people are insulted by it. Its just a bit of gamer humor, sorry.

Hairy tuna...pershaps that should be YOUR username. Gross and disgusting..ewwwww i can't even look at your pic now you've disgusted me in every which way.

I know, Sate, I don't find that a very appetizing metaphor.

Coolmomma, I wish my intellect and my 'little head' matched up the way yours do. Sometimes they do. Sometimes not. There's one person with whom I have had ongoing chemistry for almost ten years... and we can barely have a conversation.

hairy tuna.

Lust is an intellectual exercise for me. A woman must be interesting, intelligent (which does not mean book-smart), introspective before lust is a factor. (this comment is brought to you by the letter i) I can fall easily in like, love is an evolution, but lust partners very much with the brain connection.
Is lust just as important as love...? For me, yes. I am highly sexualized and need that physical connection as a part of feeling validating in the relationship.

For me, there's a difference between lust and chemistry. I can think there is lust because someone is very beautiful but that doesn't always mean that we're a good match in bed. When I find true chemistry, which is rare, that lasts for years and years. So I guess I'd say I need more than lust for love to work. I need chemistry. That said, chemistry can exist without love and chemistry does not ensure that love will last.

to have sexual intimacy lust must exist, preferrably with love; to have love, lust is not a prerequisite.

Depends on situation!

I have two experiences I can reflect on with this topic. I dated this girl back in high school for three years before breaking up near the end of the relationship lust was what kept it going, but eventually even sex and passion wasn't enough (and there was plenty) and I think in the end you feel more alone that way.
Now, I also dated an older woman a while back and although we never touched each other let alone have sex (because she felt physically uncomfortable with it) I knew, and she knew what we had was love. So love without lust was just as satisfying except those nights when you just REALLY need a fix like, craving after chocolate or... in other cases hairy tuna.
Love without lust sometimes I feel that is what makes it more real, because you aren't blinded by desire, you feel you want to be with someone out of a feeling stronger than desire alone. As women we value a different type beauty, we are aware of time and the phases of life we go through wisdom and age is not a bad thing and we all know 30-50 years from now, sex is not forever but the feeling and companionship is.

With that said, this opinion is also coming from a person who is very traditional. The ol' Date to marry type so it is somewhat bias; it all depends on what everyone is looking for but I think it is only fair that intentions are made clear.

The principles of lust... are easy to understand
do what you feel...feel until the end
the principles of lust .... are burn't in your mind
do what you want... do it until you find love
i did.....:)

I think lust is just as important as love! In some past relationships I found I lost interest in sex due to many different reasons..luckily, with my partner I have now..things started off with a blast and our sex life continues to thrive, I love her tall sexy body all over me..things just keep getting better!

Has anyone had the lust long outlast the love? I have.

Has anyone had the lust long outlast the love? I have.

And suddenly I see the error of my ways. I have lusted after many, loved only a few and it has always fizzled. I have learned an important thing, when the lust dies out, the love usually follows and if only one person is clinging to them that one person is screwed.

Secretly I hope that eventually someone will lust after a completely flawed me and it won't fizzle, in fact it'll remain because somehow that person will also really love me, not because I am perfect but because under every flaw and constant babble there's a person.

You really do need both, but if you build first on lust you're setting yourself up for complete failure. I myself don't enjoy complete failure and chronic blows to my ego. Ergo I am ignoring lust, after a while you'd be surprised at how easy that gets and waiting patiently for the moment I see the opportunity to have both and someone actually wants both side of the entire affair and not just a torrid 3-6 month fling with a fast fading lust and disappointing ego blowing words.

That's my take on this topic.

i'm not entirely sure that the two are different for me. i *don't* think lust is something that 'dies out,' any more than love is -- hell knows i've fallen out of love with people i still want to fuck! i just... if i don't want to get it on with someone, i'm probably not going to love them in a sexy way, but i would love them as a friend. (and i LOVE my friends -- those relationships are just as crucial to me as anything!)

Wow so many cynics here. I think lust is very important, it's only amplified by love. This is just my take on it.

No because lust can and will die out anytime, love is from the heart, lust is from the groins/genital area, sex.
It can be associated with one night stands where you just have to lay and get laid.

in the most existential extreme, love and lust form an empty set.

The question is whether lust is *just* as important as love (assuming in a romantic relationship). It is crucial that lust is as important to both partners involved- if sexual intimacy translates to feeling secure and appreciated to one partner and is not remotely important to the other, conflict will occur. It's inevitable! I think ensuring you have similar sexual interests and similar levels of libido will give you an edge on making that love last.

Of course, everyone here is assuming that by 'love' the question means 'romantic love.' The question really is whether lust is necessary in a romantic love relationship.

Whether or not lust is more important than love -- love for one's family, love for one's friends, love for one's lover -- well that's an entirely different question.

well put make me laugh ; )

Love lasts, lust dries out. That said, you need a degree of chemistry or 'lust' in order to have INTIMATE 'love'. THAT said,some 'love' doesnt last. People ebb and change, and people can grow apart and 'OUT of love' with each other but still LOVE one another. REAL or Genuine mature love, i feel lasts forever; no matter what happens how things go, or end, if you are betrayed etc etc; call me old fashion, but i believe REAL love, a spirit connection lasts beyond this realm even. Confused? ok ill shut up now. lol

I'm just a gigolohhhh..........;)

Good on ya piper:)

I'm full of 'LUST'!! ;))

Lust is very important, it gives you that primal sex that is so great. If you are in love and have that too, it is explosive.

Thanks Shyrose, and just another note, love does NOT automatically mean lusting after that person. I was in love with and loved by someone who had no desire for me what so ever. She for sure loved me, no doubt in my mind, but lust? Not a chance.

Chocolatpuddin. I love how you put it!

Of course lust is important. If you don't lust after your lover the love making isn't going to be very satisfying. You can lust after someone and have great sex without loving them, but if you love someone the lust is just as important to keep the relationship energized and alive so it doesn't become stale and dead.

Well if you have no lust for the person you are in love with I doubt the sex will be all that great. But usually when your in love with someone the lust and love just go hand in hand. They go together. That being said you can have lust for someone you don't love, but will usually always have lust for someone you do love. At least that's how it works for me.

I think lust is for sure important, cuz lets be honest with ourselves, if you don't desire your partner, no matter how much you LOVE them, there is something that is not working for you. That being said, if you lust after someone and don't LOVE them, if you are into meaningless sex, that can totally work for you. Basically, what I am saying is...I want to lust after who I love and love who I am lusting after....not asking for much am I??